Having the courage to say No!

Recently I was having a conversation with a good mate who made it sound like I was really talking to myself. His story has elements of truth in it for all of us in that it he spoke honestly of people in his life who just seemed to take and not give.

He knew that I had recent experiences of such people and the fact that they tend to think that you will always be there for them, to help them out and support them when the chips are down, but they never manage to help or support you in return. This could be in live or running.

It shouldn't make a difference if those people are friends or loved ones, if they claim to care and class themselves as close to you, then they should need no encouragement or prompting to get in touch and say hello or support you.

I've learnt the hard way over the past few years that this behaviour is not acceptable and that those people just riding on the backs of others are not welcome and should be cut lose.

Sure it will hurt, particularly if you love them, but the quicker the pain is inflicted, the quicker the pain is over.

Dig deep, rid yourself of negative energy suckers and move forward.

Running together - sans energy suckers. Stride for stride on a life changing ride!

The Magucians advice!

It's amazing how someone can know so much about you without you actually revealing anything to them. 

I've returned to writing for the first time since parting ways with my muse (and a girl I truly adored) over 6 weeks ago. In that time I have not been motivated to write anything even in a professional sense. I have however been extremely angry and channeled the anger into my sport and boxing with great results.

This morning I spent with my magician, who is also my favourite massage therapist. Not only did I get a two hour massage, but we did our standard yoga and general therapy as part of the session. 

She is so good that she can pick just by looking at me what has been going on in my life. She picked the fact I was angry at a women these past few months, she picked I felt lied to and played for a fool, she picked I had been boxing in anger and proving just how good she is at what she does, she actually named the girl by name.... Now to anyone who doesn't know her gift this would seem alarming, but I've spent enough time around her to know that she knows what others don't.

She picked I hadn't been writing and suggested that it would good to channel my anger into creativity again. It really is quite phenomenal how people like this exist and then come into our lives when we need them with a unique perspective. 

It's sad that I'll never talk to the girl in question again, and certainly life has changed and after hardships and disappointment we become harder. Today was just another piece in the puzzle.

Channeling anger is good- vent it out than keep it in and you'll amaze your self.

Running together (while channelling anger and venting), stride for stride on a life changing ride! -- Sean Muller

Pushing the boundaries

This year being the year of no women for me, I've now decided to do something completely out of character (or to help mould a new character) each week going forward. 

This week I've enrolled at a boxing gym and am quite excited - while a bit nervous as I contemplate my first bout in the coming months. My ab strength will have to improve dramatically but this can only be good as it will improve my running and swimming in having a stronger core and also to absorb the body blows. 

It's not like it's a world title fight or anything like that, but still it's little things that help to push me out of my comfort zone and assist in the hardening process with the flow on effect of hopefully some six pack development and stronger running and swimming.

All of this can only be good in the long run and get me experiencing things I haven't done in the past. I'd be interested in hearing what others are doing to extend their comfort zones. 

Running together (while pushing the comfort zone limit), stride for stride on a life changing ride! - Sean Muller

Change, growth and running angry!

February already - where has time gone! 

2015 is a year of change and growth. Just because people say they care about one doesn't always mean it's true. I'm truly tired of dishonesty, flakiness and people telling lies when I'm just played for a mug all the time. 

A friend shared the following wisdom with me -'Sam you're the kind of bloke that others walk all over before they get to their destination.' Fair call - hand on heart I'm soft, but in running, training and life I'm hardening. This year is a year of no women - they have just brought trouble to me and so I'm ignoring them and focusing on getting harder and stronger in life and running!

Running together (while ignoring women), stride for stride on a life changing ride! -- Sean Muller