Yesterday I mentioned the bloke who asked for my help in overcoming his relationship breakup. First things first in these scenarios is to stop thinking and brooding about that person and what they may or may not be doing.
The easiest way to do this is to make sure that you have plenty to do and keep yourself occupied with so that you aren't thinking about them, but also burning up the excess energy that you will find you have now that they aren't in your life anymore. There is that inevitable void as he is feeling right now. The void where you want to pickup the phone and call them or when you are alone in bed at night and missing them. All of this natural, but it's how you deal with it that counts.
Our program has him running and swimming every morning and with an optional gym session after work to keep him sane and burning that energy. It may not be the only way, but I've found it's the best way to beat the hurt.
He's showing signs of progress (or maybe it's just tiredness), but nonetheless it's positive. If you are going through a similar situation then I'd recommend that you flog yourself for a good solid month as that is the hardest time usually. With time it does get easier and you will also get fitter.
Be kind to yourself and don't be afraid to go a little mental on the exercise. It's better than the alternative of eating yourself fat. Channel that anger and hurt into constructive outcomes in exercise.
Running together (while burning off anger and hurt), stride for stride on a life changing ride. -- Sean Muller
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